Sep 26, 2007

Do You Tell Him?





This book has absolutely been one of the biggest blessings of my marriage. I can't say enough about how eye-opening this book has been for me. It has changed the way I speak to my husband, the way I appreciate him, and definitely the way I romance him. Skip and I have been married for 15 and a half years, have been best friends for almost 25 years, yet I have never been more in love with him than I am right now. He is still the same flawed, human being that God brought into my life all those years ago in Driver's Ed class. He is the same one who would blare Duran Duran out of his Jeep speakers and drive me through mud and gravel scarying me half to death. He is also still the same one whose touch and kiss literally melt me on the spot. What HAS changed in this whole relationship is me. I don't nag to him(well not much), I don't complain about lack of time with him, I don't correct him as I would one of my children, and I don't get mad about his obsessions(for example -The Dallas Cowboys which he writes about here, here, and here). I instead try to see him in God's eyes, the way he was created to be. He is a passionate man, and he does passionate things. I have started to really be his number one cheerleader (without costume, of course he wouldn't mind that), and I've tried to affirm him daily in all he does.



Are you affirming your husband in his job, as a husband, as a father? Sometimes it is so hard when you feel like you are doing everything, but this book helped me to realize how very important it is to tell them how much you respect them. This book shares how respect is so much more important to your man than your love. In turn, when we give our husbands respect, they in turn give us our most desired want- Love! I am only on week 4 of the 7 week bible study For Women Only, and I can see huge differences in the ladies in my class. I didn't want to share this post at first because I thought it would probably be something everyone has heard before. So many of my fellow bloggers have wonderful marriages, and have been married far more years than myself, but according to the ladies in my study, they wished they had learned all this valuable information sooner in their marriages. I know when I look back to our first few years, I literally cringe thinking of the horrible example of a godly wife I was. It was simply ignorance, and selfishness. If you haven't read this book, I strongly suggest you pick up a copy. I guarantee your husband will be glad you did. Did I mention that this bible study is packed full of scripture and advice to implement right away? Okay, the book is good. I think you get the picture. Have a great week and don't forget to tell him...

7 comments:

Penless Thoughts said...

Great reminder, for ALL of us!!!
Susan

wimberley said...

Susie~
Thanks for being such a great godly example of a wife,& mother!! I appreciate all you share and have shared with me in regards to your marriage!!
And my husband is obsessed with the Cowboys too... He plans on wearing his Dallas Cowboy jersey the day our son enters the world!!
~wimberley

Mike said...

Is there a For Men Only book, one that doesn't talk about football and boogers?


Mike
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Becky Wolfe said...

Thanks for sharing this book. I'm very intrigued to look it up & share it with some of the women in my own church!

Chappyswife said...

Sounds like a great book. I've wondered about it. Thanks again for the reminder. I always do better in telling my husband how much I love & appreciate him after reading your posts on this subject. LOL :0)

DA Wagners said...

Love that book and that Bible study! I wish I would have read it when I first got married! I bought For Men Only for my hubby, although I enjoyed reading it more than he did. It helped me to have a better picture of who I am as a woman!

Linda said...

I believe this is one of the books I'll be reading this year in a church book club. Thanks.